Ritual for Releasing Betrayal and Reclaiming Your Power

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Betrayal is the breaking of trust—whether by another or even by yourself.

Betrayal is the breaking of trust—whether by another or even by yourself.
It leaves echoes in the body, the mind, and the spirit.
It can make you question your intuition, dull your sense of worth, and trap you in cycles of self-protection or longing. But beneath the pain is power—the power to reclaim your voice, your value, and your truth.

This ritual is a gentle guide back to yourself.

Time: Sunrise or sunset (or whenever you feel most inward)
Place: Somewhere quiet—outdoors if possible, barefoot if safe
Items:

  • A candle
  • A bowl of water
  • A small stone or crystal
  • Pen + paper
  • Sage, palo santo, or incense (optional)

1. Cleanse the Space Light your candle. If you have sage or incense, waft it around your body and the space, saying: “I clear this space of old pain, illusion, and energetic residue. I welcome clarity, healing, and truth.” 1. Cleanse the Space
Light your candle. If you have sage or incense, waft it around your body and the space, saying:

“I clear this space of old pain, illusion, and energetic residue. I welcome clarity, healing, and truth.”

2. Write the Pattern Down
On paper, write the story of your betrayal pattern. Don’t filter—let the hurt speak. Then, write:

“This story is no longer mine to carry.”

3. Speak it Out Loud
Read what you wrote to the flame. Feel the truth in your throat. When you finish, gently fold the paper and place it near the bowl of water.

Say:
“I release the need to understand betrayal. I release the cycle of being unseen, unchosen, or dishonored. I reclaim my worth.”

4. Wash it Away
Dip your fingers into the bowl of water and touch your heart, your forehead, your belly. Imagine the pattern washing away.

Say:
“I cleanse myself of all I have carried that was never mine. I am new. I am whole. I am free.”

Hold your stone or crystal to your chest. Whisper what you are calling in now: “I invite love that is loyal. I invite truth without games. I invite a heart that meets mine with equal fire.” Keep the stone as a symbol of your new boundary and your sacred self. 5. Ground in the New
Hold your stone or crystal to your chest. Whisper what you are calling in now:

“I invite love that is loyal. I invite truth without games. I invite a heart that meets mine with equal fire.”

Keep the stone as a symbol of your new boundary and your sacred self.

Remember:
Healing from betrayal is not about forgetting the wound—it’s about reclaiming the space it once occupied.
With every breath, you are choosing yourself. With every step, you are walking toward wholeness.

You are not broken. You are becoming.

May this ritual be a turning point—a sacred return to your power, your worth, and your light.

Have you experienced betrayal? How did you reclaim your sense of self afterward? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

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The Sacred Repairing Art of Kintsugi

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The Art of Scars

So many of us are going through a degree of trauma right now, be it a broken relationship, a broken spirit, a broken body, or a broken bank account we are all going through something. And, in the wake of all these situations are the scars that they leave behind which could be physical, mental, or spiritual. All of us need healing on some level and in some form.

So, I wanted to share with you what I discovered while visiting sacred sites in Japan. There is a word in Japanese – Kintsugi – which means “join with gold” which is the ancient 15th-century way of repairing a broken object. When something meaningful broke, be it a vase, a bowl, or whatever, they didn’t just throw it away. They methodically and lovingly repaired all the broken items by filling them carefully with gold. The cracks in the ceramic pieces were beautiful – exactly the way they were, even though they had their faults, they were filled in with gold and these golden scars added to the living story and the value of the container. The cracks that were filled in with gold increased the value of objects more than if they were broken before.

Kintsugi can be seen as a powerful metaphor for human resilience. In our lives, we all experience moments of pain, loss, sorrow, and trauma, that can leave us emotionally wounded. However, like Kintsugi, we can choose to repair those wounds and transform them into something meaningful and beautiful.

Symbolically the repaired cracks of pottery represent the healing process; Just like any genuine process of healing this golden repair requires that we first acknowledge and carefully study the exact bolts and divisions that damage the sacred vessels in our own lives. And then it is up to us to determine what gold means to each of us. When I examine my own life, I know my family and my friends are my gold, filling me up with their love, joy, and their attention. And that is always how I heal, in the frequency of love and joy.

It doesn’t matter if you are facing a disease, surgery, a lost job, or a broken relationship please find your kintsugi – your gold and fill your life with that. You will heal the broken aspects of your life and be whole again. Allow your own kintsugi to inspire you, and to embrace the flaws and setbacks as a part of life.

Remember that Leonard Cohen lyric that I love so much – “There’s a crack and everything that’s how the light gets in.”

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Developing Nightly Rituals

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Developing Nightly Rituals

At the end of the day, as the sweet, dark stillness of night beckons us to lay down our bones and rest, we find ourselves at a clear transition point: Behind us lies the previous day and all that has come before; ahead of us, dawn heralds the unfolding of all that is yet to be. While many of us have morning rituals that connect us with our center and help us to set intentions, we may want to explore the magic and power of nighttime rituals as well. It holds for us a beautiful chance for self-appreciation and blessing. Before you go to bed each night, you can send gratitude, compassion, and healing to the being you have been up until this moment. And you can send lightness and love into the future for the one you are in the process of becoming.

When you consciously engage with your own evolution this way, you may find that your sleep gets sweeterThough simple, this action honors the journey you have taken thus far while opening you to the wonderful possibilities still ahead. When you consciously engage with your own evolution this way, you may find that your sleep gets sweeter, filling your night with a deeper sense of trust and relaxation. As you rest, you can surrender to these peaceful hours, knowing that the road behind you has been seen and acknowledged with respect and kindness, while the path ahead now holds your own benevolence and well wishes.

This bedtime ritual empowers you as the only one who can determine the meaning of your own past and the hopefulness of your future. By setting this special time aside each night, you can begin to orient yourself on your path of growth. It allows you to let the past have its place, to trust that the future is taken care of, and to simply rest yourself in the graceful arms of the present moment.

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Always Go

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Always go

I travel. A lot. And I am constantly asked why. Why go? Travel balances the chi within me and animates my spirit in a way that nothing else seems to. I seem to stay in a heightened state of awareness by being in new places, in which I am mindful, receptive, and ready to be transformed.

Tibet with AugustSo, I want to go as long as possible, forever if I can, feeling as if I’ve never truly arrived, and be at complete peace with the journey of it all. I don’t need life’s little checkpoints to convince me that I’m growing and progressing. The memories I accumulate will do that. My confession is that I fall in love with so many places I’m always half broken-hearted by goodbyes. And I don’t believe in non-attachment. There’s no passion in that. I believe we leave tiny pieces of ourselves in every place we’ve loved, and in every person, we meet along the way.

When I come home nothing has changed. But I have. And, that changes everything.

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I’m Ready

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I’m ready for the last month of 2022 but this year has not been easy. It has not been a walk in the park. It’s been challenging, and there’s been obstacle after obstacle. They say, “what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.” I don’t entirely agree. Some things that didn’t kill me came so close that they are still damaging. And can’t that be ok too? Can’t some things just break you? At least for a while? Why does admitting defeat make you weak? For goodness sake, bleed. And bleed openly. There can be pride in vulnerability. Honesty is maturity.

There was a time when I had things figured out. A time when answers seemed clearer, each step was calculated and traced, my future mapped out, and important dates circled. Life wasn’t always easy, but it always made sense. Then I learned that life has a habit of making examples out of people like me.

I'm ready

Life is a strange and beautiful thing. Show me someone who has brilliance boiling beneath the surface, and I’ll show you someone who has almost died or certainly wanted to. The people who seem to have life tied together nicely with the bow on top, those are the people who have stories so terrible that most don’t have the stomach to hear them. Life has brought me to my knees, and I pray that I never have to feel that degree of pain again. And, yet, at the same time, life’s devastating sorrows made me everything I am. Life will wear you down, but then you realize sometimes to become something more, there has to be nothing left. Motivation seems to follow devastation.

I feel like I have a bloody lip from all the fights I have been in with my life, but I am walking steadfastly toward what I know really matters. I’ve made mistakes, but I am not afraid of regrets, I understand my life did not go as planned. But this year has shown me what being powerful really is. And I’ve learned life is unpredictable, so I’m learning to laugh. Life is hard, so I am learning when to be soft. Life is beautiful because I am learning where to look. Life is short, so I am learning to make it significant. And life is a bitch, so I am learning to be a better one.

And, that’s why I am ready because when I look in the mirror I don’t see the same person I saw at the beginning of the year. This one has more strength, more courage, more confidence, more focus, and definitely more faith. I’m more resilient and unbreakable. I see a person who refuses to give up no matter what life throws her. I’m ready. Bring on the last month. I’m ready.

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