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Navigating a Breakup in a Respectively and Compassionately | Creating a Meaningful Life

Michelle Cromer February 19, 2025 Leave a Comment

Navigating a breakup is undeniably challenging, but taking proactive steps can help you move forward with grace and respect. Here’s how:

Release with Compassion
Initiate an honest, face-to-face conversation to end the relationship, expressing gratitude for the positive moments shared. If an in-person meeting isn’t feasible, a video call is a suitable alternative. This approach honors the connection you’ve had and provides closure for both parties.
Clear Physical Reminders
Perform a thorough cleaning of your living space to remove lingering energy. Burn sage around your home, especially in shared spaces, to purify the environment. Open windows to allow fresh air to circulate, symbolizing the release of old energies and the invitation of new beginnings.
Cleanse Your Environment
Perform a thorough cleaning of your living space to remove lingering energy. Burn sage around your home, especially in shared spaces, to purify the environment. Open windows to allow fresh air to circulate, symbolizing the release of old energies and the invitation of new beginnings.
Practice Self-Care Rituals
Engage in activities that promote healing and self-renewal. Taking an Epsom salt bath can help cleanse negative energy and provide a grounding experience. Incorporate calming scents like lavender or rosemary to enhance relaxation and protection.
Reflect and Heal
Allow yourself time to process the emotions accompanying the breakup. Embrace solitude to reflect on the relationship, understand your feelings, and identify personal growth opportunities. This period of introspection is crucial for healing and preparing for future relationships.

By actively engaging in these steps, you honor the relationship’s end with empathy and integrity, paving the way for personal growth and future positive connections.

Tune into our podcast episode now and start your journey toward a more loving environment.

Breaking Up? Here are Compassion Strategies to Help

Michelle Cromer February 17, 2025 Leave a Comment

Breakups are horrible. Here are some strategies for gracefully and respectfully letting go of a relationship so that you can continue to grow. None of these suggestions may be the key to unlocking your burden and perhaps guilt, and that’s okay. That magical key may not even exist, but here are some ideas on how to start.

Let your partner go with love and compassion. If possible, have a face-to-face conversation with your partner or a Zoom call if you are in quarantine; to wish them well and let them go respectfully. Thank them for something specific they brought to you and share how they made a difference in your life. If your partner is unwilling to speak with you, still have the conversation as if they are in front of you. This is important because the chi of your words is releasing that gratitude into the energy that surrounds you.
Gather up any items from the relationship. Get a container and fill it with old photographs and any gifts that were received. All of these items contain the chi of the partnership, and they need to physically be removed from your space. I suggest that you do not throw anything away – yet. You never know what may happen. Give the box to a trusted friend to keep.
Take an Epsom salt bath. Soaking in a relaxing Epsom salt bath has cleansing abilities and can help clear away any negative feelings or negative energy that surrounds you from others. And this will keep you grounded. Salt, after all, comes from the earth.
Buy a new mattress if you can. We spend hours and hours a night on our mattresses, and they hold a great deal of chi from our relationships. If you can’t buy a new mattress, then flip the mattress and do a sage clearing. Burn sage all around the mattress and the bedroom, open up the windows and doors, and release all that chi.
Spend time alone. Before you move on to your next relationship, embrace the pain; spend time alone reflecting on what happened, and take some needed time to heal. Spending time alone will leave you better, not bitter. No one can piece your heart back together for you, be strong enough to do this for yourself. If you can, your patience and perseverance will definitely pay off.

Breakups are deep and raw and there’s no easy way around them. Leave your partner in such a way that allows them to believe in love moving forward and give yourself time to mourn. By ending things with empathy integrity, love, and compassion, you’ll set an example for how they should expect to treat others and be treated in the future. And if that’s not good chi, I don’t know what is.

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Three Depths and Kinds of Love

Michelle Cromer February 10, 2025 Leave a Comment

I believe every person we meet—and those we’ve yet to encounter—exists in our lives for a reason. Each connection brings with it a set of directions, guiding us to the next destination in our journey. As we move forward, we must carry the hope that each stop could be the final one, that perhaps the next person we meet won’t simply hand us directions but will instead offer us something lasting and beautiful—enough to inspire us to stay.

Among all these encounters, there are three profound kinds of love we experience, each serving a unique purpose in shaping who we are and how we understand love.

First Love
This love often finds us when we are young, wide-eyed, and unguarded. It’s tender and pure, though perhaps naive. Over time, we may drift apart or end things over what feels, in hindsight, like trivial matters. As we grow older, we might dismiss this love as fleeting or insignificant. But it wasn’t. It was love in the only way we understood it then. It taught us the beginnings of what love could be—its excitement, its simplicity, and its warmth.

Second Love
This is the love that challenges us to our core. It is often marked by heartbreak, pain, and lessons we never expected to learn. This love is turbulent—it brings betrayal, drama, and sometimes even loss. But through the struggle, we grow. We begin to understand the depths of our capacity to love and the boundaries we must set to protect ourselves. This love shows us what we value in relationships and what we must leave behind. It sharpens our clarity, makes us more cautious, and teaches us to recognize the difference between what nurtures us and what harms us.

Third Love
This love comes quietly, unexpectedly, and without pretense. It doesn’t arrive with grand gestures or a checklist of qualities; instead, it unfolds naturally, breaking down the walls we’ve built over time. You find yourself caring deeply without effort, drawn not to perfection but to the authenticity and beauty of another’s imperfections. This love feels like home. It allows you to be fully yourself—flaws and all—while inspiring you to be your best self. It’s the love that makes you believe in forever. It’s the kind of love you thank the universe for because it feels like destiny.

Each of these loves shapes us in ways we cannot always foresee. They teach us about ourselves, about what it means to give and receive love, and about the resilience of the human heart. And in the end, they guide us toward the love that feels most real, most true, and most enduring.

Feng Shui Your Home for Love | Creating a Meaningful Life

Michelle Cromer February 3, 2025 Leave a Comment

Transform your home into a love magnet this Valentine’s Day with our latest podcast episode, “Feng Shui Your Home for Love.” Discover actionable steps to invite romance and harmony into your space:

Harmonize Your Bedroom
Ensure balance by incorporating pairs—two nightstands, two candles, and two pillows. Symbolically, leave one nightstand empty to welcome a future partner.
Thoughtful Decor Above the Bed
Avoid solitary images that represent single energy. Opt for artwork featuring pairs, like two butterflies or mountains, to signify love and strength. Steer clear of water imagery above the bed to maintain positive energy.
Create Space in Your Closet
Make room for a future partner by clearing space in your closet. This physical openness invites new relationships into your life.
Prepare the Bathroom
Hang an extra towel to symbolize readiness for a new person in your life. This simple act sets an intention for welcoming love.
Celebrate Self-Love On Valentine’s Day
Adorn yourself with cherished jewelry and spritz a favorite rose-scented perfume. Send yourself flowers and a thoughtful gift to honor your relationship with yourself.
Embody Love Daily
Reflect on what being love means to you and practice it daily. By cultivating love within, you naturally attract it from others.

Ready to transform your living space and invite love in? Join our podcast episode now and start your journey toward a more loving environment.

Feng Shui Your Home for Love This Valentine’s Day

Michelle Cromer February 2, 2025 Leave a Comment

Feng Shui, the ancient Chinese art of harmonizing your environment to promote energy flow, dates back thousands of years and is rooted in the belief that our surroundings profoundly influence every aspect of our lives—including love. The Feng Shui Bagua map, a guide to energy in your home, designates the far-right corner of any space as the area connected to love and relationships. By enhancing this space and other key areas, you can invite the energy of love into your life. Here’s how to get started:

1. Focus on the Bedroom – The Heart of Love

Focus on the Bedroom – The Heart of Love
In Feng Shui, the bedroom represents love and intimacy. To nurture this energy, balance, and symmetry are essential. Incorporate pairs—two nightstands, two candles, two pillows, two chairs—symbolizing partnership. If you’re looking to attract someone new, leave one nightstand symbolically empty for their belongings. This creates space for their energy to enter your life.
Mind What Hangs Above Your Bed
Your bedroom art matters. Avoid solitary images, as they represent single energy. Instead, choose imagery that symbolizes love and connection, such as two butterflies for transformation or two mountains for strength and stability. Never place photos or paintings of water above your bed—this symbolizes instability and emotional overwhelm, which can disrupt the harmony of your relationship space.
Make Space in Your Closet
Feng Shui is about inviting new energy, so clear out some space in your closet for this future partner. This act sends a powerful message to the universe that you’re ready to welcome love into your life.
Set the Tone in the Bathroom
In Feng Shui, every space has a purpose. Hang a towel specifically for your future partner. It’s a small but meaningful gesture that reflects your readiness to share your life.
Celebrate Love—With Yourself First
On Valentine’s Day, embody the essence of love by nurturing your relationship with yourself. Wear jewelry you adore, spritz on a favorite rose-scented perfume (symbolic of love), and treat yourself to flowers or a thoughtful gift. Self-love creates the foundation for all other relationships.
Activate the Love and Relationships Corner
According to the Bagua map, locate the far-right corner of your home or bedroom. This is the love and relationships area. Enhance it with symbols of love, such as pairs of red or pink objects, heart-shaped décor, or fresh flowers. Avoid clutter in this space to allow energy to flow freely.
Be Love
Ultimately, Feng Shui is about more than objects or arrangements—it’s about embodying the energy you wish to attract. Reflect on what love means to you and radiate that energy. When you become love itself, you magnetize it into your life effortlessly.

This Valentine’s Day, honor the timeless wisdom of Feng Shui by aligning your home—and your heart—with the energy of love. By creating space for love in your environment, you set the stage for it to blossom in your life.

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