
“Every choice in life either moves you forward or keeps you stuck.”
Oprah Winfrey
Every one of us has had the feeling of being stuck. And, we’ve been stuck for a whole lot of reasons. Whatever those reasons may be, I know we can find our way out. The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.
Here are some practical ways to get free from three areas of our lives:
- Physical – Clear away the clutter and distractions. There are a lot of things that can clutter our physical lives – unhealthy behaviors, fear, an incomplete project, toxic relationships, and physical clutter in our space. Start cleaning out those closets, drawers, emails, friends, and outdated beliefs. Get out of your comfort zone by shaking up your routine and adding some excitement to your daily routine.
Any of these solutions will help you find your rhythm. - Mental – When we are stuck, we all have one thing in common, mental noise. Being mindful of our mindset and self-talk is important to living a life of freedom and fulfillment. To quiet that racket, practice gratitude. Write out all the things you are thankful for.
- Spiritual – Do some deep reflection. Make space to reflect on where you are in life and where you want to be. A meaningful antidote to being stuck is serving someone else in a practical way. Look for a way to help someone every day. Have a conversation with a higher power. Conversations also include listening, so create a space of silence. Take a pause and go on a spiritual retreat to refresh and renew your purpose.
There is a difference between being stuck and choosing to stay. Between being found and finding yourself. Even the tiniest step forward is a step in the right direction.
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I wrote this blog 7 years ago, a month before I found out I had cancer in my face, and before all the reconstructive surgeries that followed. I am convinced this practice helped me heal and it is now a part of my spiritual and healing discipline. I encourage all of you to simply take your shoes off and walk barefoot on grass, dirt, a beach, and Mother Earth.
Our shoes distort our bodies’ feelings and function and also disconnect us from the earth. We don’t think about this, working in our offices behind non-opening windows, perched high above the earth on steel encased in concrete. We sleep and move in climate-controlled homes and vehicles where we have to look at an instrument to know the temperature outside. Our lifestyle is more like life in submarines or spaceships than on Mother Nature, it seems. Conversely, there’s something primal, damp, sensual, and connective about walking on the earth. Something of mystery. This is the thing I love about it: it redirects my abstract concerns. It plugs my attention into something much greater and more live-giving than the ridiculous flock of worries my mind generates.
In an interview, with reference to his fame, Bob Marley was once asked, “Are you a rich man, do you have a lot of possessions?” He replied, “I don’t have that kind of richness, my richness is life.”
There is only now: Practice mindfulness; strive to return to the present moment. Take walks and leave your phone behind. Play with your children. Wrestle with your dogs. Look up at the sky, savor a cup of coffee or relish a glass of wine. Be here now as often as possible.
