6 Ways to Clear Toxic Energy After a Day of Work

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My goddaughter recently asked me a great question – she works for a wonderful senator in DC but she finds that work she has begun to take on other people’s energy and sometimes work can be toxic for her and she asked me if I had any advice.

So if you find the same thing happening to you here a few things you can do:

  1. Before you go into your office or workspace close your eyes and wrap yourself up with a white light. Almost as if you are stepping into a white bubble that will serve to symbolically protect you.
  2. Pick an animal that you can imagine walking into work with you. This totem is also for protection.
  3. If someone invades your space take a step back from them.
  4. When you are in a meeting sit at one of the ends of a table or by a window. Toxic energy seems to gather in the middle of the rooms.
  5. Eat protein. This simple tool will help ground your energy.
  6. Take a shower when you get home from work and imagine all the toxic energy is going down the drain with the water.

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Three Depths of Love

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Three Depths of Love
Photo by Asad Photo Maldives

I think all the people we have met and all the people we have yet to meet are meant to exist so we can find them, so we both can exchange a set of directions, which will guide us to the next place we are meant to go. And, as we go we must always believe that maybe this could be the last stop. That maybe the next person will not have a set of directions, maybe they will have more, and maybe they will offer us something beautiful, enough to inspire us.

First loveAnd, I think out of all the people we meet, we fall in love with three of them, each for a different reason.

First love: This love often happens at a young age. You eventually grow apart or call it quits over silly things. When you get older you may look back and think it wasn’t love. But the truth is, it was. I was love for what you knew love to be. Remember there are three depths of love.

Second Love: This one is the hard one. You get hurt in this one. This love teaches us a lesson and makes us stronger. This love includes pain, lies, betrayal, abuse, drama, and damage. But this is the one where we grow. We realize what we love about love and what we don’t love about love. Now we know the difference between good and bad humans. Now we become closed, careful, cautious, and considerate. We know exactly what we want and don’t want.

Third love: This one comes blindly. No warning, it creeps up on you silently. You don’t go looking for this love. It comes to you. You can put up any wall you want, it will be broken down. You’ll find yourself caring about that person without trying. They look nothing like your usual crush types, but you seem to get lost in their eyes daily. You see beauty in their imperfections. You hide nothing from them. You can be everything you are and everything you are not with them. You probably want marriage and a family with them. You thank the universe for them. You truly love them.

 

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The Miracle in Iceland

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The Miracle in Iceland

Myself in Iceland

Traveling is the healthiest addiction. Every trip I take, and every new person I meet is a new adventure pulling me deeper into the love of the unknown. My heart hurts when I’m standing still for too long.

When I got melanoma skin cancer six years ago one of my doctors suggested that I make a travel bucket list. The last destination on my list was Iceland, so I decided to go to the land of my Viking ancestors.

Since this was a science expedition boat, I had to check-in, get a Covid test, go through all the safety regulations and get fitted for my winter gear, and report to the powers that be that Olga will be delayed. However, when I went to the meeting area and met the person in charge, I was told if Olga didn’t get on the ship at Reykjavik, where the ship was docked, then she wouldn’t be able to get on at all. Further, if I got on the ship without Olga, I would not be able to get off to meet her at any of our stops.

Because I am forgetting so many things from past trips; delicious meals, landscapes, conversations on balconies under the canopy of stars, insights, theater, scenes in distant cities, moments I swore I would remember forever, so many washed away like Etch A Sketch drawings. So while packing for this adventure I promised myself to have more of a balance in recalling the magic.

When arrived on a bright, freezing summer day in the capital city of Reykjavik, I discovered that there is nothing quite as humbling as standing on the land where my ancestors once lived. This reminded me that I am the result of a thousand sacrifices and of a thousand loves.

hired a driver who happened to be a man named MariusEach trip I take seems to be defined by a single moment, and those moments always involve a person. I randomly hired a driver who happened to be a man named Marius. He picked me up from the Reykjavik airport and showed me around while I waited on my fellow explorer and dear friend Olga to arrive.

Olga

There was kindness in Marius’s smile and gentleness. It was the smile of a man who laughed with ease. His stunning eyes were the blue color in the middle of a Bic lighter. He too came from Vikings and our day was spent walking through history.
Unfortunately, Olga ended up missing her connection in New York, due to a flight delay in Miami, which meant she would miss boarding the ship on the embarkment day. We both thought that this was no big deal and felt she could board at our first stop the following day.

Marius was carrying in my bag and overheard everything. I went into action calling the boat captain, the company, and our insurance provider. Two hours later, no one could help. Marius never left my side. As I bowed my head in defeat, knowing I wouldn’t get on the boat without Olga and knowing we would lose all the money we spent, Marius softly put his arms around me, bent down, and quietly said, “Let me see if I can help you.”

Touring Iceland with Olga

In less than five minutes he came back and told me that the company will make an exception and that Olga could join the boat from anywhere at any time. I don’t know whom Marius called or how he did it, but Olga happily arrived and boarded the ship the following day at our first stop.

I most likely will never see Marius again but his unselfish kindness will be a part of me forever. I realized in Iceland that sometimes miracles are good people with kind hearts. I also realized that it is time for me to make a new bucket list!

 

 

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Healing Grief

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Healing Grief

I recently received a question from a woman who watches my YouTube videos and she asked me about grief. She was distraught due to her friends demanding she “get over it.” From my personal experience with death and dying, I understand that we never get over great losses, and I don’t think we are supposed to. We absorb them, and they carve us into different, often kinder but always deeper creatures.

All lives are hard and difficult to understand, and we acknowledge the slipperiness of those who died – they got out. You hold on to them because it can be so appalling here until you can’t hold on anymore. You can’t tether them to earth anymore, because the thread has grown too fine.

When they tell you to heal and move on, don’t listen. Healing from loss doesn’t look like healing from an injury. This was not a broken bone, these are pieces of our hearts, and now a piece of our heart is gone.

You will heal; just not the way the world wants you to because we are a grief illiterate society. You will breathe easier. You will ache maybe a little less, but take it from me; the longing will never ever leave. That is the beauty and the fierceness of your love.

Here is what I want you to know if you are going through grief: this is really as bad as you think. No matter what anyone else says, this sucks. What is lost can’t be restored. You are in pain and it can’t be made better. The reality of grief is far different from what others see from the outside. There is a pain in the world that you can’t be cheered out of. You don’t need solutions. You don’t need to move on from your grief. You need someone to see your grief, to acknowledge it. You need someone to hold your hands while you stand in the middle of this blinking horror, staring at the hole that was your life.

Some things cannot be fixed they can only be carried. Grief as it turns out is heavy. And it is all in the way you carry it.

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The Language of Clutter

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Cluttered workroom
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When I walk into a client’s home and I see bursting cupboards, piles of paper stacked around the house, messy desks, wallets that can’t close, and closets jam-packed with old clothes, I know my client feels stuck in many aspects of their lives. Constant untidiness is an obstacle. External clutter tells me that there is internal clutter because our surroundings are actually the projection of our inner world.

Throughout the last 15 years of working with hundreds and hundreds of clients, I have developed something I call, “the language of clutter.” Clutter talks to me depending on where it is, and what it is. However, like any language, we all must translate the meaning according to our personal perspective and our own life.

The language of clutter
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Below are eight clutter areas I often see:

  1. The over-packed desk – a desk is symbolic of our careers, so the owner is most likely feeling stuck at work. After the desk is organized, the person is able to focus their awareness and receive clarity on future plans.
  2. The disorganized kitchen – the cluttered kitchen speaks of emotional fragility or resentments not overcome. The message is to review emotions surrounding family relationships and to pay attention to what nurtures each member of the family.
  3. Unorganized garage – when there are too many objects in the garage it implies fear of the new. The garage represents stability, security, and safety. After the garage is organized the overall sense of being grounded is felt.
  4. Messy closet – what are you hiding? Know your truth and find the courage and strength to express it.
  5. Clinging to old clothes – clothes represent our identity, and our ability to be seen. Give yourself permission to grow and change.
  6. Books that build up – books can easily pile up. They represent our wisdom, passion, and what we deem to be important. Simply ask yourself what you believe and allow your belief systems to evolve and reflect your current life stage. Repurpose your old books to public libraries, schools, homeless shelters, and neighbors.
  7. Cluttered wallet – if our wallets are unorganized and ignored, this could reflect the relationship we have with our finances. Revisit your finances and take the time to get all your accounts in order.
  8. Unkempt bedroom – our bedroom, no matter where it might be in the house, will always represent our relationships, the intimacy we share with our partners, and the energy surrounding romance. Look at this room in your home and spend time reviewing any emotional clutter surrounding personal relationships.

A cluttered home can negatively influence the perception of our home and ultimately the satisfaction of life. A home isn’t just a place to live it is a broader constellation of experiences, meanings, and situations that shape the creation of our world. Cleaning up clutter can have a positive effect on all aspects of our lives.

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Michelle Cromer