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7 Tips on How Feng Shui Can Help You Find a Job

Michelle Cromer April 19, 2021 Leave a Comment

Can Feng Shui Help you Find a Job? — Photo by Tima Miroshnichenko from Pexels

Due to COVID, so many careers have taken a turn or a detour and many have been looking for a job for a while so those detours might feel like dead ends. However, feng shui can help. The emphasis is on the word “help.” Feng Shui can be used as a support vehicle, however, it’s not magic. You need to take action like sending out resumes and networking.

Here are a few tips to help you move your chi, bring harmony and create the flow needed to find the job you want.

The Front Door – clean it up, use it, buy a new mat, and leave the light on symbolizing that you are lighting the way for new opportunities.
Let it Flow -The back left corner of your home is your wealth and prosperity power section. This area likes a water feature, symbolizing the flow of money. This will help generate more chi. The water feature can be a photo of a waterfall, just make sure the visual has the movement or flow of water, nothing still, stormy or turbulent. Mirrors can also bring the energy of water to this area.
Get rid of bad chi – If you want a big change then get rid of bad chi which consists of broken items, negative thoughts, and any clutter.
Have no fear –Think of three or four past successes, perhaps obstacles you have overcome, and when fear creeps into your consciousness think of these successes to anchor you in present-day awareness.
What will you wear on your first day? Sit quietly and visualize what you are wearing that first day. The way you present yourself that first day sets the chi for this job. So, find that power dress, shirt, or suit that will represent your success, and that will showcase dedication.
Have fresh green plants in your home – plants symbolically represent growth and new opportunities.
Believe – Most importantly believe that you will get the job that will serve your highest purpose. Keep positive, stay optimistic, and don’t lose hope. Be open to the possibility that the job might come in an unexpected way, in an unexpected place, from an unexpected company.

Have any Feng Shui questions? Feel free to contact me at michelle@michellecromer.com and sign up for your Power Color or visit me on Facebook at Michelle Cromer Feng Shui.

It’s Complicated

Michelle Cromer March 29, 2021

“Listen, we need to talk. We have had some great times, improved our vocabulary, mixed things up in the bedroom, gotten some answers from the stars, taken a few trips, contemplated bad decisions, big life choices, and the road not taken. But you knew in the beginning that we came with an expiration date. And now, well, now it’s complicated,” said me years ago when I didn’t have the guts to end a relationship.

“It’s complicated” has maneuvered its way into relationship vernacular so often and it is now so common we have all decided to accept this ambiguous answer to our relationship dilemma.

But what does “it’s complicated” mean? Maybe it means, “I have been wearing a facade with you. You don’t know me. The thing is, I don’t know you either. I wasn’t paying attention. I was here solely for the benefits. So I never learned to communicate with you. And now I have no idea how to tell you the things that are really going on in my life and in my mind. So I am going to give you something vague phrase and run away to compose myself so I can get control of the situation, reset the facade or abandon it and see what happens.”

“It’s complicated” is one of the dumbest things people say that so many accept. I think it is an insult. Do they think you aren’t smart enough to understand? Are you of so little importance that you aren’t worth the attempt at explaining things?

Facebook, the mothership of social media platforms permits “It’s complicated” as an option when listing your relationship status. There are eleven relationship categories Facebook users can choose from: single, in a relationship, engaged, married, it’s complicated, open relationship, widowed, separated, divorced, in a civil union, in a domestic partnership.

Why would anyone in a legitimate relationship choose “It’s complicated?” Does it translate to “I’m still waiting for my mail order bride to arrive?” Or does it mean, “We kind of hate each other but are too chicken and immature to end it so here’s our status!” Whatever the reason behind it, I’m here to tell you that it’s a stupid status.

To me putting, “It’s Complicated” as a relationship status is offensive. It’s rude and hurtful and it also invites someone as random as your lab partner from high school to comment on the change in your relationship. The only thing complicated to me would be trying to figure out why we are even friends on Facebook or in real life in the first place. What happened? You and your boyfriend got into a fight and you went to the bathroom and changed your status? Really? Do you think your Facebook page is a news source that we are all following in real-time, and we need to know these up-to-the-second changes? Unless you have “It’s complicated” as a joke as in you’re in a relationship with your refrigerator and it’s complicated, this should never be your relationship status.

Rest assured, I’m not saying that everything is always simple. Of course, some things are complicated and require complex solutions. But I think we should look for the simple solution first, and avoid the tendency to assume that our challenges are more difficult than they really are. A large dose of honest communication could uncomplicated things considerably. All meaningful relationships will face challenges, but try not to get hypnotized by seeing the complexity.

Keep things simple, open, and honest because that is what real love is: simple and not that complicated.

Here are some relationship statuses I am tempted to post:

Separated from reality.
Risen to a level of entitlement in which I no longer care about human relationships at all and all I feel is the warmth of all life on earth. Om. (Yep it’s complicated).

What relationship statuses would you like to add to this list?

Have any Feng Shui questions? Feel free to contact me at michelle@michellecromer.com and sign up for your Power Color or visit me on Facebook at Michelle Cromer Feng Shui.

Chocolate, Martinis and Finding the Goddess in Each of Us

Michelle Cromer March 22, 2021 Leave a Comment

Years ago, I was invited to join a wonderful women’s circle that was all about celebrating the divine feminine. We were asked to bring something to the circle to share with the other women. Some brought crystals, there were some tribal beads, and one woman brought drums and danced a ceremonial Native American rave. I brought chocolate and martinis.

The discussions were powerful, the women were intelligent, the snacks were delicious – well, mine was. I worked to release my uptight notions about religious purity and loosened up my bonds of perception. I turned up my spiritual iTunes and allowed my divine stagnation to take a break.

Understanding goddess energy within each of us can help us discover our own innate gifts and abilities. It might even lead to a new path of self-discovery.

See if you can relate to any of these spiritual gals:

Kali –represented by the color red and our root chakra. If your self-confidence is under threat, her energy can help. According to ancient Hindu tradition, Kali is the mother of all of us. She possesses strong willpower and penetrative insight. She can guide you to a new fulfilling path.

Hathor-represented by the color orange and the womb chakra or lower abdomen. Hathor was revered as the ancient Queen of Heaven, the patron of dancers, the mother of gypsies, and the generator of radiant power. She is a shape-shifter and has the ability to transform your confidence and accept change.

Pele– represented by the color yellow and our solar plexus chakra, our personal power. Pele is said to be the Hawaiian goddess whose spirit dwells inside the largest active volcano in Hawaii. This energy is helping us to be energetic, recharge, and revitalize. Pele helps us cut through denial and channel our energy in a rewarding way.

Kuna Yin– represented by the color green or pink and the heart chakra. Kuan Yin energy can help with issues of self-acceptance that prevent a sense of peace and balance. The Chinese goddess of love and compassion, Kuan Yin is a complex energy full of unconditional love. She reminds us to look after ourselves.

Athena-represented by light blue and our throat chakra which is related to communication, creativity, and healing. Athena was a beautiful warrior queen who stood guard over the ancient city of Athens. Her energy encourages us to have a no-fear attitude, to be tough, independent, and resourceful, but not to be afraid to ask and accept help when needed.

Isis-represented by indigo and our third eye chakra. This energy helps see both physically and intuitively and to see all things clearly. Isis, the Egyptian high priestess ruled with love and patience. Her energy tells us to gather strength, trust our inner wisdom, which will lead us in the right direction.

Nuit-represented by purple and our crown chakra brings in the energy of understanding, cosmic consciousness, and enlightenment. To access deep understanding, self-knowledge, and wisdom, use Nuit. This Egyptian goddess is the bridge between heaven and earth. She represents universal oneness, bliss, and love.

I left the women’s circle feeling sassy and scared and I learned a great deal about goddess energy, which I didn’t even know existed. Now in moments of panic and in the face of unending need, I think about the characteristics of these goddesses, and I know that there is a reservoir of clarity and strength somewhere deep inside of me. Fortunately, we all have an inner goddess, ready to help us, eager to share her wisdom. To find her, slow down, get quiet, go within. You will feel her in your heart, and your gut, in your blood, and in your bones. Spend time connecting with her. She may share with you ways to find your inner compass or tell you how to create the life you want. You can connect with her anytime you want to, whenever you need to. Her wisdom is your wisdom. If you still can’t find her, offer up some chocolate and a martini that always seems to help me.

Although we already had our first class, you can still sign up for The Goddess Principles online Zoom class. I will send you the first replay and you will also get the follow-up replays if you cannot attend at the time of the class. For more information or to sign up for the class, click here.

How to Honor the Space in Your Home When Someone Dies

Michelle Cromer March 15, 2021 Leave a Comment

Recently, a family who had just lost their son called me. After a long battle with leukemia, he died in his bedroom, he was just 11. They wanted me to stand in that difficult sacred space between the living and the dead, between faith and fear, and determine the best way to honor his spirit. As I walked in I heard a woman, who I suppose was a friend tell the grieving family not to think of the little boy’s body, because it was “just a shell.” I am sure this thought was well-intentioned but was said by a person who is unsettled by the fresh grief of others. Right between the inhale and the exhale of the bone-wracking sobs such hurts produce, to some it’s normal to have this “just a shell idea.”

It is important to remember that whoever died in the home is precious to the people they left behind, and those people still love them. So clearing the energy of the room where a beloved one dies requires respect, in such a way that honors their memories and helps to begin the process of picking up the pieces of the shattered hearts left behind. My first suggestion is to do nothing to the room until after the memorial, the funeral, or burial ceremony as this is the official way we close the life of the person in our culture.

Several months after the celebration of the life of this little boy I returned and made these suggestions:

Open all the windows of the house, symbolically allowing fresh energy to replace the old.
Remove personal clothing and consider donating them.
Clear out some personal items, which helps the family process their sadness and grief. I made sure the family knew that clearing out their son’s things did not mean I was trying to clear out their memories. There is no rule that you have to clear out anything or even adhere to a particular timeline. The grief journey is different for everyone.
If possible buy a new mattress, and if this is financially impractical then perform a sage clearing which will help to balance the energy of both the bed and the room allowing for renewal.
Paint the room, either the same color or select a new color, which will dramatically change the energy.
Use soothing incense or essential oils such as lavender, sage, or eucalyptus to disperse the energy of the room. I use eucalyptus because of the healing properties and then I layer that with rose oil, which represents love.
Open up the curtains or drapes and let the sunshine inside. Place prisms in the window, allowing the rainbows of light to enter the room.

Someone told me once that the body is “just a shell.” I said, “From now on until I tell you otherwise, that body isn’t “just a shell” she’s my daughter.” When we bury the old, we bury the known past, the past we imagine, sometimes better than it was, but the past, all the same, is a portion of which we inhabited. Memory is the overwhelming theme, the eventual comfort. However, when we bury children we bury the future, unwieldy and unknown, full of promise and possibilities, outcomes punctuated by our hopes. This kind of grief has no borders, no limits, no known ends, and the little graves are never quite big enough to contain such grief. I learned long ago that some sadnesses are permanent.

Real healing is hard, exhausting, and draining. This is why is it always wise to treat this new reality carefully and with honor. Clearing the space in a home can enable the family to begin the long, sacred, arduous, holy process of healing.

Have any Feng Shui questions? Feel free to contact me at michelle@michellecromer.com and sign up for your Power Color or visit me on Facebook at Michelle Cromer Feng Shui.

The Goddess Principles-Live Zoom Classes

Michelle Cromer March 1, 2021 Leave a Comment

I’m so excited to tell y’all that I am teaching a three-part live Zoom class on my latest book The Goddess Principles: Nine Ways of Applying Ancient Wisdom to the Mystery in You. I taught this class at the University of Texas at El Paso last semester.

For over 15 years I’ve discovered from the university students I have taught and the clients I have been blessed to work with that the most powerful Feng Shui couldn’t be addressed by moving furniture around or changing paint colors. The most transformational experiences taught me that it isn’t the space that nurtures the people, rather it’s the people that affect the space. I also discovered that people display particular archetypal patterns of goddesses. So much so, I began to label my clients by their particular goddess, and Feng Shui their space according to those characters and behaviors.

In this class:

I identify the nine primary, ethnically diverse, and often gender-fluid mythological goddess avatars that have emerged in today’s society and in my practice.
I help you determine which goddess avatar describes you. Are you Gaia, a caretaker, the responsible one in the family? Are you Aphrodite who is passionate and full of fire? Are you Lakshmi the business executive?
By describing the qualities of each— Feng Shui symbols and colors, yin and yang characteristics, universal lessons, unique challenges, personal style, and defining behaviors, we can also determine how you should work, love, serve and what your life purpose is based on these goddesses archetypes—by retelling the ancient myths as relevant contemporary identities, I explain each goddess avatar’s association and how we might fully tap into that power to transform our lives.

This class is for anyone who wants to look deeper, to explore, discuss and share the experience of what they see below the surface, even when others don’t.

Because learning to become who we already are at our core gives us a meaningful way to live with ourselves especially in transformational times.

When: Wednesday, 3/17, 3/24 and 3/31
Time: 11:00 am MST
Cost: $54.00 for all three classes!
Where: Zoom

Register here.

If you can’t make the Live Zoom class a link will be emailed to you within 24 hours. Hope to see y’all in class!